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I went to the Farmer’s Market this weekend and got some super yummy local produce. I love how talking to the farmers that grow my pesticide free food connects me deeper to the earth, my food and my health. When I shop like this it makes me feel very European.
 
Feeling this European influence I decided it was time to cook something I have never attempted before, mussels. Recently I’ve been cooking more seafood which has really scared me in the past. I had a silly limiting belief that I was not a good cook and I had no business even attempting seafood. But I know from working with clients (and from doing the work myself) that limiting beliefs are just really bad excuses.
 
I also decided it was time to bake my own bread (yes, I eat bread and cheese and drink wine, just not everyday and not a ton of it) from a recipe in the book “French Women Don’t Get Fat”. I like the attitude this book takes with food and lifestyle.
 

Do you ever list out the things you want in your life, dream about them, slap them on a vision board and think "THIS IS IT"?

I do. I have lot of things I want. So do my clients. But when I desire something I also want to know why I want it.

Have you done this? You wanted something, got it and come to find out it didn't make you happy because you never really wanted it in the first place? I have. When I get the thing I thought I wanted, I wasn't happy because it was never my genuine desire to have it.

Let me give you an example. I wanted to go to college to study Finance. I took the tests, visited the colleges, and applied where I wanted to go. Yippppeeee! I got accepted, studied and took classes and graduated only to find out I really never wanted that in the first place. It was never my dream to be in Finance. It was my parents pushing me into the "9-5" stable life. I took it on as my own, but it was never what I really wanted.

Ask yourself this question: “If I accepted myself as I am, how would my life change?”

Would you feel free? Would you stop making excuses for why you can't do "such and such" and actually do it? Would you stop hiding and start shining? Would you get out and meet a man or have fun with friends? Would you start exercising and get the body you DO want for summer?

I know for me, I free up a lot of time! If I can squelch the negative chatter box, I have a lot of free time to take action on what I want in my life.

I accept that I’m not perfect and I’m not trying to be. I try to be the best version of me I can.

For a long time I was not willing to accept myself. Why? I wasn’t willing to let go of being a victim and blaming others for my shortcomings. If I accepted myself as I was, then I had to take responsibility for myself, my actions, my thoughts and my feelings.

Scary! You mean I have to do something, stick my neck out for what I really want and (gulp) take responsibility for the success or the failure of it!!!!????

Oops I did it again. I went off track with my healthy lifestyle.

I'm a Certified Health Coach/ PMA Certified Pilates Teacher, don't I know better? WHAT GIVES?

Well first off I KNEW I was going off the rails. I've been doing this work for a while. I know my tricks and lies I tell myself. I know my triggers and that when I get into fearful thinking, it takes everything I've got to be the Wellness Warrior I know I am and fight for what I really want.

So do I know better? Hell yes. Did I still gain five pounds over the last few weeks? You bet.

I am what you call a classic "Self Sabotage Sally". This means I say I want a healthy, vibrant life and a fit body, but I go ahead and make sure that doesn't happen.

Luckily I've done some work, know some stuff (um, I do this for a living!) and know some key people to help me get back on track.

How do I deal with "SSS"? I treat myself just like a client. I start with the basics.